Re: What's happening in your life?

by Nightjar Fri Feb 28, 2020 11:28 am

Off to CMH shortly for a meeting with the palliative care team to thrash out what will be realistically possible.

We'll still be aiming to get him home, but you never can tell...

by cosmictanya Fri Feb 28, 2020 3:55 pm

Well, the hope the afternoon went productively for you with the team.

by Nightjar Fri Feb 28, 2020 6:54 pm

It did.

He moves back home on Tuesday.

by Nightjar Sat Feb 29, 2020 9:48 pm

My Grandpa died this afternoon at about 4pm.

The end was, it seems, mercifully swift albeit shockingly sudden considering the good spirits he was in yesterday after he realised he could go home.

I was called at 3:15pm today (by a very dear nurse who'd cared for him much of the last week) and told that he'd deteriorated dramatically during the course of the day.

I arrived at just before 4pm and when I asked him clearly and loudly whether he could hear me he seemed to mouth something and expelled accompanying breaths.

I then went to talk to the medical staff and a (fairly inadequate) doctor was subsequently called for.

In the interim period I could get no response from him whatsoever.

The doctor then came and conducted a number of basic vital-sign tests and declared there and then that he'd 'passed'.

I think that I was present the moment he died.

My feeling is that, in the knowledge that he could go home at last and on hearing the voice of someone he loved and trusted, he simply relinquished the rope and drifted away...

by Fangirl Three Sat Feb 29, 2020 9:58 pm

I'm very sorry to hear that but I'm glad that you were there for him at the point of departure.

by **The Call of the Wendigo** Sat Feb 29, 2020 10:34 pm

I hate it when bad things happen to people. bawl

by Zarniwoop Sat Feb 29, 2020 11:31 pm

I know I can't say anything worthwhile over an internet forum but my thoughts are with you.

by cosmictanya Sun Mar 01, 2020 1:35 am

I'm really sorry to read that. Best wishes to you, and your family, and to him. Be good to yourself.

by Guest Sun Mar 01, 2020 8:43 am

Big hugs big man.

by Guest Sun Mar 01, 2020 1:40 pm

I went to see that big ship thingy!

Excited

And they had a Op-art exhibition in the local art galley, or as I like to call it Bridget Riley and some also rans. sad yes

Can't wait till I get my snaps back from Boots.

by Guest Sun Mar 01, 2020 2:12 pm

I really must work out how to use that Panoramic feature on my phone:

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I like they way there no attempt at aesthetics just a pure ~~death~~ factory on sea.

Time for some culture aristojar

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by Butterfield Sun Mar 01, 2020 2:16 pm

Nightjar you are very lucky to still have had grandparents. I'd guess most people have lost all of theirs by their 30s or 40s; I lost my first grandparent at 15 and my last at 34. I remember someone I knew at school lost two of their grandparents in one go - in a car accident. To have shared your life with a grandparent for 50+ years is very good going. yes

by Nightjar Sun Mar 01, 2020 2:56 pm

They're all gone now. sad yes

by Nightjar Mon Mar 02, 2020 12:26 pm

Good God I feel depressed.

by cosmictanya Mon Mar 02, 2020 12:56 pm

No doubt. You'll probably feel like sh*t for quite some time. The only thing to do with great grief is to feel it, entirely, and go wherever it takes you.

As you say, it was mercifully swift, which is all anybody can ask for.

by Nik Sun Mar 08, 2020 8:33 am

My condolences Nightjar.

by Nightjar Sun Mar 08, 2020 1:00 pm

by cosmictanya Sun Mar 08, 2020 3:12 pm

WhatDoesThisButtonDo? wrote:I went to see that big ship thingy!

And they had a Op-art exhibition in the local art galley, or as I like to call it Bridget Riley and some also rans.

Can't wait till I get my snaps back from Boots.

Where was that? And how did you manage to capture it from the sea rather than the dockside? Seems rather remiss of them not to have blasted your rowing boat into non existence - you could've been anybody.

by Guest Mon Mar 09, 2020 6:49 pm

I've finally saved up enough money to order the body and neck of my next, my last, guitar I'm building.

It's shell pink in satin finish. bounce

by Nightjar Mon Mar 09, 2020 6:52 pm

Last guitar?

Pluck the other one.

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